There seems to be so much pressure these days to heal. And so much to heal from. We're all still trying to wrap our heads around the global trauma that we collectively experienced starting in 2020. And at the same time, many of us have had to navigate the brutal waters of our own individual grief, illness, loss, and the crushing mental overload that come with all of it.
Social media reels placed not so slyly in our paths challenge us to heal. To cut out the toxicity, to identify the bad guys in our lives, and to self diagnose our neurospicy-ness.
But what if healing is overrated, or doesn’t even truly exist? What if the Instagram reel definition of healing might not be real?
So what does healing mean to Wild Folke? Healing can be as simple as relief. Relief from our heartache, betrayal, broken and bruised bits.
Because, when we try to jump from broken to joy, we fall, metaphorical wounds reopen, trauma is re-lived, old patterns are embroidered onto new people over, and over, and over again.
Also, there’s still dirty laundry to do (actual real dirty laundry - not metaphorical dirty laundry), and work to show up for, and other lives to help care for. So how do we make our whole lives our healing era?
For me, it means keeping myself open to life's joys and pains. Believing in heartbreak as much as I believe in falling in love. Loving myself when my body is dancing as much as I love myself when my body can’t get off of the couch. And taking a moment to brew a cup of tea, to breathe in the scent from a just-lit candle, remind myself that it's ok to believe that everything is working out for me, even if I can't see it. And repeat to myself, "everything is working out". (Thank you @traviswarrenunicorn, clearly some social media reels hit home).
I think the biggest betrayal to our healing era is looking for the time when it's over - because it wants to stay with us, it wants to ebb and flow and grow with us. And not only does it want to, it’s going to. Every time we think we’ve closed the door on our healing era, something happens and we need its wisdom back. We need the reminders that it’s ok to stay on the couch a little bit longer, or listen to that inner voice that is telling us to go out in the woods and explore.
So here’s to you! Welcome to your Healing Era! You are on the right path, you are so incredibly wonderful, and you get better at being you, every day!
Love,
Julie the Wild Folke
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